I was asked if I felt it were wrong to use the real names of people whom have hurt me in my Blogs. Honesty, I don’t believe its a wrong decision. This is My life and I’m telling My story. The name(s) that have and will be used is what makes this real!
In life people have choices some good and some bad but, its their decision to make the right one. All choices have a consequence. If you aren’t comfortable enough to have everyone know you’ve done something then you shouldn’t do it.
I am an abuse victim and survivor and I will say the names every chance I get. I used to be unable to say the names and anytime someone said it I’d wince. I couldn’t bear it. But, Now I’m no longer running from names or problems. They made their choice, now its time to face the consequences.
I believe all Survivors should speak their abusers name. Whether its been 5 years or 50 speak their name. No matter their social class or status SPEAK THEIR NAME! Most women who are abused wait to tell their story and as a result, nothing can be done to the abuser because of the statue of limitations on the crime. So, he/she can’t be charged but, that doesn’t mean you still can’t tell your story. That doesn’t and shouldn’t mean they still can’t be held accountable. Its time to Say Their Name! They won’t forget what they’ve done and shouldn’t be given the opportunity to do it again to anyone else. So, Say Their Name; Government Name, Nickname, Street Name, Social Name. You tell your story and don’t forget to mention anyone who’s involved in it! Its your life and you shouldn’t have to sugar coat especially for Anyone who didn’t respect it enough in the first place.