Breaking The Silence, Wake up

Cosby Controversy

Bill Cosby was given the guilty verdict with 3 counts of aggravated indecent assault against Andrea Constand. The way the public has taken this and twisted it is sickening. In reading the comments left by people of society, I have to disagree with vast majority of them. The comments that were left only furthers reasoning for people not wanting to speak out on their abuse.

Majority of the people were asking ” if it’s true why did the women wait so long to speak out?” The part that got me here was the “if”. Sexual assault isn’t something to play around with, why someone would lie about being victimized is beyond me. But to answer everyone’s question Andrea Constad went to the police in 2005 filing a case against him but due to insufficient credible and admissible evidence the district attorney decided not to press criminal charges. Andrea Constand then filed a civil suit, the case was settled out of court in 2006. This brought more of his accusers out resulting in Andrea Constand’s case being reopened and his records unsealed. She was assaulted in 2004 and spoke up in 2005 the courts waited so long to bring his case to trial, it wasn’t his accusers. Secondly, I’d like to point out if you are a victim to any form of abuse you become traumatized and hurt and talking about being assaulted is probably one of the hardest things to do. It took me 17 years to openly be able to speak on abuse that happened when I was 5 years old. It takes time to heal and be able to be comfortable enough to tell your story especially with the world that we live in today. People get criticized every day for telling their story; the truth. Even with telling their truth there’s no guarantee that the abusers will even be charged. You have to learn to look at things from a different perspective than your own. Think outside the box sometimes. If it had been you who were assaulted would you think the same?

Another common comment left was one that I felt was ignorant. It stated “why would he assault “ugly women” when he worked with such beautiful women on his show.” The way you look has nothing to do with someone assaulting you. I was 5 when my abuse began. 5 meaning undeveloped and a child at the time and that didn’t stop me or many people whom have a story like me from being abused. Beauty doesn’t determine if you will or will not be raped it just isn’t logical. A predator will go after anyone, some people just happen to be luckier than others because they aren’t assaulted. If looks determined everything then children wouldn’t be victims.

Another comment and misconception was that because Cosby was wealthy he didn’t rape those women. If you are wealthy that doesn’t mean that you’re incapable of doing what is mentally in you. Our own president is wealthy and holds one of the strongest positions in the country and still even he has openly admitted to assaulting women. Oprah Winfrey is very wealthy, top of the class for african American women but yet and still even she was raped. Wealth does nothing but put you in a higher class in society it does not exclude you from being a victim or a predator. It does not exclude you from being human.

No one chooses whether they are assaulted or not. But, the predator makes the choice to hurt the victims that they do. Bill Cosby has admitted to drugging women and having “consensual sex” with them. How is it that someone can give consent while passed out from Benadryl? You can’t. I was a huge fan of the Cosby show growing up like so many other people but still that doesn’t take away from holding him accountable for the choices that he made. You have to separate Bill Cosby from his character on The Cosby Show. Society shouldn’t be able to pick and choose when a victim gets justice. Nor Should they judge people for telling their truth. Bill Cosby made the choices and should be held accountable no matter the time frame, looks of his victims or his status in society. Stop making excuses for people who knew the consequences and willingly made the decisions to affect someone else’s life.